When discussing habits that are really bad for our mental and physical health a conversation usually begins with listing such as midnight snacking or eating fast food, smoking and drinking.
But researchers have proven that these are all habits connected only to our behavior which don’t have the most negative impact. The ones that really threaten our well being are connected to our psychological condition.
1. Loneliness and pushing people away
When we feel isolated, lonely and depressed we tend to trigger our self-defense mechanisms by purposely avoiding deep relationships with others. The fear of getting hurt and disappointed by someone may have a lasting damaging effect on our mental state and general happiness.
2. Underestimation after failure
Usually, when we fail we tend to bring up all the negative emotions that the initial mistake has caused. We concentrate on the negatives so much that we lose focus on what’s really important. Learning from our past mistakes is key in order to prevent similar bad situations in the future. Believing we have set unattainable goals that we lack the skills to meet, we tend to underestimate ourselves thus causing deterioration of our mental health.
3. Self-criticism and punishment
Having a high regard for yourself can lead you successfully through tough times, hard challenges and sometimes even earn you a promotion at work. Nevertheless, we often tend to punish ourselves for our own mistakes by leading a dialogue with our inner self that is abusively punitive.
When we intentionally beat down our own self-esteem we forget about moving forward and how to effectively utilize our own skill set.
4. Guilt prevents us from repairing our relationships
The sense of guilt in small amounts is sometimes quite useful. It gives us the appropriate control over certain situations regarding the people closest to us. When we screw something up we seek forgiveness from the harmed person and usually we receive it. However, if our apologetic message is not perfectly tailored to the other person’s hot issues some tension will still exist because the apology we received has not been completely sincere.
5. Plunging into constant grief mode
Sometimes when distressful or unpleasant events occur we start to think a lot of the different possible solutions to overcome them. It’s a mechanism that allows us to unburden ourselves by constantly thinking about the arisen problems. Sadly, most of the time we attempt to move forward in our thinking we can’t because this constant brooding over past events has turned into an obsession.
Such stressful mental condition can lead to a lot of bad behavioral habits.